Aloha, Sweet Kirup-Pineapple head.

Well it finally came. The day I have been secretly dreading for ages.

Kira will be leaving tomorrow morning to fly to Hawaii to attend BYU for the next 3 years.

How on earth did this day come so fast?

Let me just tell you a little bit about Kira.

(Excuse the proud sister bragging, though, Im not close to sorry.)

She is not just a sister, she is my friend, my comic relief and my car dancing partner.

She's determined and intelligent.

She's been working her ass off for the past few years to get to where she is now.

Not only did she get into BYU Hawaii but she also got accepted to Cal State Fullerton and BYU Provo.

(Which is a BIG deal)

Lets be honest though, wold you rather study in the snow or in Hawaii....

She made the right choice :)

She has always been very smart and for that I'm truly jealous.

She is a beautiful creature inside and out. An amazing example to others. Always kind.

She is absolutely hilarious, when I'm having a bad day I just go through her whole Twitter account because I know that I'll get a good laugh out of it. 

Everything that comes out of her mouth is gold.

She can burp better than any man I've ever heard.

Bottom line, she's a champion.

Kira is not just my sister.

We have been through the unimaginable together and she alone understands my past situation from when we were little.

I feel kind of like I'm losing my security blanket.

My sisters and I are all very close so its going to be weird without our Kirup.

I view this as an experience for her to grow and to expand. To spread beauty to others, like she does in my life. I know that she is capable of success. I have no doubt in my mind.

So heres to you Kira. May you find happiness. 
I pray that comes in the form of a 6'4" surfer.

YOU DESERVE IT!

I you little Pineapple-Head.

( Seriously, is she not the babiest babe?!)

My love, I am so proud of you,

Cheers & Aloha.

My life as an INFJ

The struggle for understanding is real!

Growing up I never really understood why I couldn't connect with others.
It's not that I'm anti-social or can't communicate. I'm friendly & overly observant. I become immersed in others lives and know all about them, but then realize they've only scratched the surface with me....That's my problem.

After a failed marriage, I looked at what I could have done differently.
I decided to learn about myself. Love myself. Understand myself.
How could I more effectively communicate.
How do I show love. How do I feel most loved.
I needed answers because If I was ever going to have a successful relationship in my life AD then I needed to know what to fix. Isolate problems and create solutions.
In order to do that, I needed to understand myself.

*Que the trumpets*
Enter the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator!
Identify Your Personality Type Here


It was like I was opening my eyes for the first time. Things made sense!
With knowing my personality type and knowing other's types, its been easier to understand the way they love and communicate. It saves frustration and less assumptions are made.


Im an INFJ
(Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging)
"The Protector & Counselor"
Making up only 1% of the population.

I Like to be alone. Im not being anti-social, I just need time to recharge.
I listen more than I talk.
I think before I act and try to look at the big picture.
Im a peacekeeper. I value harmony and compassion.
I like to figure things out for myself.
I work in short spurts of energy.
I avoid arguments and confrontation
I tend to take things personally.
I am motivated by appreciation.
I am quick to compliment others.
I am prompt.
I take responsibilities seriously.
I value personal integrity.
I protect those who can not protect themselves.
I become stressed easily.
I connect to very few people, but have a mass amount of acquaintances.
I am reluctant to express feelings until I feel safe.
I am stubborn, patient, devoted and protective.
I prefer written communication.

View my personality profile type below 

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INFJ Profile

I'm a complex creature.
I know this, but that's the beauty of it.
We are all different but if you try to understand yourself and your partner on a different level, you will come to understand that a functioning relationship is possible.
Learning to communicate is frustrating but if you are willing to understand how and why people think the way they do, you won't have as many problems.

Click Here To Understand Me A Little Better.

And Here

There are very few people I connect with in this world, one being my best friends Jacqueline. 
Through the years I could never really understand why we had this intense connection.
We have the same views on life, love, politics and self worth. We love without fear of judgment from one another, she was my rock during my divorce and is my confidant. A few months ago we were talking out personality types and she said she is an INFJ....... Well of course she freaking is.
Its beautiful how we find people in our lives and things just click.
Good lord I love that woman.

In conclusion my friends:

Find the person who balances you. Who comforts, supports, and accepts you for who you are.
Who communicates in a language that you understand!
Opens your hearts to the possibility of love.

Cheers.

Choose Happiness.

We, as a human race have a horrible problem.

We often base our happiness upon others.

"I'll finally be happy when I get married."

"I'm sure I'll be happy once I get promoted."

"If I make other people look bad, I'll feel happier about myself."

"If I _____________, thats when I'll be happy."

and my personal favorite:

"I stay because he makes me happy."

When, and who told us that this was acceptable?

We push this on others like it's somehow their responsibility.

"Oh well, he didn't ________ so Im not very happy."

He didn't call, if that was the only thing he did, I'd be happy."

It's time to take the initiative.

YOU ARE THE ONE WHO CHOOSES TO BE HAPPY.

Happiness is within your control.

Yes, others can ADD to your happiness, but they should not DEFINE your happiness.

You can't wait around waiting for others to make you stoked on life.

Generally, I'm a happy human.

I'm an optimist. I believe there is good in everyone and everyone deserves happiness.

Who am I to say one person deserve happiness and another doesn't?

I am not the decider.

They are.

YOU ARE.

So go on. Go on and decide if you want to be happy.

Believe it or not, you deserve it.

No matter what we've done in our lives, we deserve happiness.

Forgive others. Forgive yourself. Promote self worth.

Once upon a time, Kellyn Brandt was only happy when she was with a man.

This was the only way I felt validated, I felt special and wanted.

Adding a second last name was the solution. This is what brought me "joy."

"Joy" blinded me and suddenly I was secluded from my family in another state.

This "joy" also caused me to spend hours behind a locked bathroom door terrified.

The one thing I thought that was going to make me happy turned my life into a living hell.

Then one day I found myself at the bottom of the barrel.

I had been spread so thin, that I didn't even recognize the person in the mirror.

This wasn't who I was.

I didn't love him, but most importantly, I didn't love myself.

I was a Brandt, I didn't need another last name.

So I did what any self respecting woman should do, I left.

I took one last look in mirror, and said goodbye to my unhappiness.

As I looked back I saw he was crying. Real, honest to goodness, head in his hand, kneeling on the ground in our driveway, man tears.

I couldn't help but smile as I blasted Rilo Kiley's Breakin' Up.

Oooooo, it feels good to be free.

That was the most liberating moment in my life.

Because I knew for a fact that he no longer had any power over me.

I chose happiness.

I chose to leave and take control of my life.

I chose to create my happiness.

Not to say that others can't bring us happiness, but it shouldn't depend on them.

I can be happy without a man.

Now, don't confuse this with me being a man hater.

I love companionship.

Happiness can be created together through a relationship.

It is not dependent on one party.

Its a 100/100 thing not 10/90.

I invite you to love yourself enough to be happy.

Let it into your life willingly.

Everyone has trials, but it's your responsibility to overcome them.

Water has the ability to soften potatoes or harden eggs.

Trials have that same ability with our hearts.

It's what you do with your situation that matters.

Love others and bring sunshine into their lives, 

just make sure you consider your happiness first.

No one is going to do it for you.

Sometimes it's ok to be a little selfish.

So decide right now.

 Are you going to sit around waiting for someone to save you 

or are you going to get off your ass and save yourself?

Cheers.